Starting A Family

Happy New year! 🙂 Hope you are doing well! I would like to share what will be up here in this blog for 2020.

This year, the blog will host ‘Series Writing’. Not clear? Well, let me explain. The series’ title is going to be ‘Starting A Family’ and there are going to be different posts underneath it. 

Starting a family is a real daunting task. While starting a new job is more of social status infused with economy; starting a family is more emotional plus the social and economy aspects! 

Agree? 

The institution of marriage in reality is portrayed as something to feel bad! Getting married is losing their freedom for guys and for girls is sacrificing their passion and dreams! This is how marriage is defined over years. The idea of marriage on the whole is something when happened people feel trapped and when it gets delayed people feel bad. These kind of push and pull thoughts creates an enormous amount of pressure on the process.

So, getting ready for marriage amongst the pressure from distant relatives, parents, friends, on top of all, social media posts and just like icing on the cake is the pressure from ourselves. The resistance that one creates in mind in the name of resentment, fear etc. becomes the major obstacle.

So, in this blog there are going to be series of posts on The Big Day of your life. 


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On seeing the pre wedding shoots in the news feed it could seem like a bed of roses and one might beat themselves up for not taking the decision of getting married; But in reality certain amount of work needs to be done to get there. To handle the various pressure from different sources, primarily the pressure we put on ourselves have to be lifted. And to lift this pressure we have to help ourselves before seeking help or jumping into the blame shifting game. Because always a certain amount of knowledge of where we stand in mental state could definitely help us from getting overwhelmed. 

So knowing oneself is the first step in getting married. Sometimes, we would be our own enemy in the process and we would be blaming parents, horoscopes, situations etc. To ensure that we are our best friend, fall back in the pressure cooker process of Arranged Marriage in Indian Society it would be the best bet to know oneself!

So please tune to www.happyindianfamily.com for Part 1 of ‘Starting A Family’ which is ‘Knowing Yourself’ series! Every week there is going to be minimum of one post on the blog on aspects related to family!

Comments and Experiences are most welcome people!! Please share them without hesitation so that we can grow together as one cannot experience all things in this world but can read them and get to know! Catch you in next post! 

Until then, loads of love to one and all.

With Love,

Rukmini P Kirthivasan

Why its Heart Over Brain?

Why a family blog? 

Why not something scientific or technical?

Here is the reason.

Emotions seem simple but are highly tricky. Get on one’s nerves easily and people are used to avoiding these once and for all as it becomes a habit! We, the people find it easy to avoid and more easier to neglect just to land in cow webs of emotional tangles. 

To put it straight, we are taught to look at marks and not hearts. We are conditioned to feel great and proud when a kid scores 100 in mathematics or science but we aren’t so happy when the child volunteers in an act of kindness. Even if happy it doesn’t seem to match the happiness of he/she getting a 100 or getting into a good University! Children can even go abroad and not even come to attend their parents when sick but the children being abroad even when their presence are much needed is seen as a status symbol by many parents! 

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Many parents in fact feel proud about their son or daughter being busy when they are in dire need of help to accompany them! That is what marks, GPAs, science, mathematics, technology has done to us. 

And to be more open, while thinking about writing something on emotions, relationships; more math, science clogged head because that is how it has been conditioned so far! My mind came up with the following: ‘Who would read about these?‘, ‘People would read if posts are something related to career growth or about making money‘, ‘Who would read about emotions and familial circumstances?’, and ‘Who would want to know people deeper beyond the benefits they can get from them?’. Many more questions popped in head. And are still in mind!

This blog is more like getting to know on how these emotions work and I would like to break this math, science and technology getting into my head so much! Sometimes they make emotions go numb. This could be challenging to uncover stuff beyond the layers of math, science, competitions, jealousy, negativity in general and find love deep within and just let it unleash by itself. But it isn’t impossible because many people still believe ‘Love is powerful’ and the truth is, IT IS!

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Am I the only one in the league fighting with these sci-tech-math to look into heart and connect with emotions so as to appreciate kindness same as intelligence?

And wining over these techie things will help us teach the coming generations that being brainy doesn’t have to be becoming heartless. Because this has more to do with starting a family especially gives strength to go through the current arranged marriage process in our country. 

Please comment!

Till then with loads of love,
Rukmini P Kirthivasan